We share, bond, and communicate through food. Preparing food to share is an act of love, and those of us who have had the opportunity to cook for others have experienced the satisfaction of feeding and nourishing others. Having three little kids gives me the less satisfying experience of cooking for them, only to be met with unpredictable, often negative, feedback.

Social connection is a pillar of Lifestyle Medicine for a reason. It is one of the prominent aspects of life for people who live in “Blue Zones” and tend to live healthier, happier lives. Social connection is a critically important aspect of human life and leads to improved health. People who lack strong social connections struggle to thrive and may even suffer adverse health consequences.

Food and social connections often intersect. Shifting toward plant-based foods affects the social aspect of communal eating. It’s relatively easy to eat whatever you want when you’re alone. You buy and prepare your food, making decisions based on your preferences and values… no big deal. But when eating out with others or at someone else’s home, it can be awkward to make special requests or share your decision to avoid eating animal products because it is not the “norm.”

I’ve worried that my family members or friends would judge me harshly, question my choices, or distance themselves from me because I’ve made such a foundational change in my lifestyle. It might feel like a rejection of those who have fed me my whole life up to this point. They’ve been curious and open to learning how plant-based eating benefits health. My mom even went along with my journey, welcoming the opportunity to improve her health while cooking and supporting my family and me. I admire her genuine, open-minded curiosity.

The bottom line is that acting in alignment with my values feels good. My choices are not a rejection of anyone. If anything, aligning with my values helps me become more present for those I love.

Notably, the reality is that most often, people are self-focused and do not care much about what others choose to do, so be true to yourself. Others are likely not paying attention to you, are momentarily interested and move on quickly, or are genuinely curious and wish to learn more.

What are your values? Are food choices related to values?

*As always, this website and blog information is not medical advice. Please consult your medical professional if you are changing your health behaviors, including starting a new diet or exercise program.